Yesterday was the commemoration of the official end of Word War Two for the Kingdom of the Netherlands with the surrender of Japan in 1945. Indonesia was liberated and on the 17th of August they declared their independence from the Netherlands. But the Netherlands had no intention of giving up the colony and a bloody battle for freedom followed.
My maternal family originates from the former Dutch East Indies. I say former because I recognise their independence date as 17-08-1945. My grandfather was part of the Dutch East Indies navy during the war and ended up as a prisoner of war in a forced labour camp in Japan until the surrender.
My grandmother was imprisoned in a Japanese camp in Sulawesi during the occupation and had been liberated with the rest of the county in 1945.
The dirty period following that is a dark page in Dutch history. No matter the cost, the Netherlands intended to take back the colony. A lot of Indonesian civilians and freedom fighters were slaughtered in name of Queen and Country. It wasn’t until 2020 that King Willem-Alexander of Orange had formally apologised to Indonesia for the amount of violence the Netherlands had inflicted there.
Merdeka! The Netherlands finally let go of their colony but my family was still living there. My grandparents had met and fallen in love and started raising a family. Two children born during the conflict and five after Indonesia gained their independence. My mother is a child of the Republic born in 1953. They sang songs when the Sang Merah Putih (the Indonesian flag) was hoisted in honor of the Republic.
My grandparents tried to make it work but 300 years of oppression has left deep scars in the country. The Indonesians couldn’t punish the royal family nor the Dutch politicians for their crimes against humanity. They were thousands of miles away. But anyone who had aconnection with the former coloniser, through bloodlines or other means was treated like an outcast. Discrimination rose and you either had to suck it up or leave.
My family left Indonesia quite late, in 1963. My grandfather’s brothers had fled to the Netherlands or USA during the occupation, the rest had passed away. My grandmother had to leave her whole family behind, her mother, sister and step-sister.
Repatriation had already begun in 1945, so my grandparents and their children had not experienced the chilling welcome message hung at the port of Rotterdam. Indo’s ga weg, Indos go away. The Dutch were not happy to see these foreigners arrive from the colony. They were busy recovering from the Nazi occupation and now there are more people coming in they needed to feed and house. Around 300.000 people came to the Netherlands.
They were housed in former Jewish labour camps and boarding houses. The boarding houses received financial incentive of the goverment to house the repatriates while the repatriates had to contribute 60% of their monthly income for room and board. Many ended up in debt like my grandfather.
My mother and her parents ended up in Oisterwijk sharing a boarding house with 4 other families for a little over a year. The rooms weren’t spacious and a welfare worker came to check up if they were discarding their savage customs for proper Dutch customs. No more rice or gamelan business! Their forced integration and attempt of Indonesian culture erasure still makes my blood boil. Especially when I hear Dutch people boast about how they went for an elaborate Indonesian meal. Fuck you with your peas in Nasi Goreng! And why so salty, it’s unhealthy and ruins the flavour of the dish.
What also didn’t help was the province they ended up living in, North-Brabant. While most of our relatives ended in South-Holland, they started their Dutch life in one of the whitest places of this country. Getting stared at, talked about behind their backs, being asked if the colour rubs off. What a ridiculous place.
My mother had to grow up in a prejudiced place. Do you eat dogs? Is your vagina the same as that of a white person? Why do you smell like that? Did you live in a brick house there? I can’t imagine you would have brick houses in the jungle. How is it to finally wear shoes? Must have been hard living in a dirty place like that. Do you know how to use a knife and fork?
Because my grandfather had become very ill when arriving in the Netherlands and he was unable to earn his room and board for the family, my oldest two uncles had to work in his stead. While they did earn an education in Indonesia, the government here did not acknowledged it here and they ended up in menial jobs in factories. Life was hard for them. It became really hard to make a living with so many debts they had to pay back, my grandfather ended up dying in debt in 1975. It took his children years to pay it all back.
“In order to achieve something, it was advisable for Indos in the Dutch East Indies to behave as ‘white’ as possible,” And they clung to this ideology after repatriation to the Netherlands. This trauma was passed on from my grandmother, to my mother and ultimately to me. It planted a seed in me that I had to achieve better than the average Dutch person, so they would look beyond the colour of my skin and the flatness of my nose. But they never did, because when they dislike you they would always attack you on your external characteristics.
Yesterday, I was listening in disbelief to the speech of the King at the commemoration. No regrets or apologies, king was affected by ‘cold reception’ of Indo community when arriving in the Netherlands. The king emphasized his gratitude to the Indo community. ‘I have the greatest admiration for the perseverance of all those families who, after the war, fought back against oppression, found their place in our country. Even more so: they helped rebuild our country and have used their talents for generations. Thank you for your unprecedented contribution to our society.’
But who was the cause of the colonisation? The Dutch East India Company together with the Dutch Royals. If some Dutch white guy never put his dick in an Indonesian woman, we would not have existed. My family never caused the colonisation but ended up with the burden of the colonisation. Chased out of a country they long had called home. And now I need to hear this pompous git saying he feels affected by the suffering they had to endure adjusting to their new home?
I don’t blame the shift in sentiment of the Indonesian people, they wanted their country back like any of the other colonies in the world. But I do blame the Dutch for their ignorance about the effect of colonisation on countries and its people.
October 2015, I was living and working in Belfast at Tourism Ireland and visited Dublin for the Bram Stoker Festival. As a big vampire fan, I signed up for several activities, and the experiences I would gain were great for promoting the island during this special time. The festival coincides with Samhain, the Celtic New Year, and a large proportion of our visitors are interested in the Celtic history of the Emerald Isle.
I studied Art History, so a visit to The National Gallery of Ireland was a must. 2015 was also the year that, under the supervision of my GP, I stopped taking the antidepressants I had been taking since I was 26. I was 35 now and hadn’t had depression for some time, so the GP thought it was time to stop.
When I stood in front of this painting, a wave of emotions washed over me. Despair, anger, but also euphoria passed in a short period of time. And I started crying uncontrollably, so much so that the security guard came to ask if I needed help.
‘No,’ I said. ‘This painting makes me happy that I can feel again.’
Antidepressants help you get through difficult periods, often caused by severe depression. During your depression, certain emotions are very strong, emotions that do not help with your recovery, such as extreme gloom, thoughts of no longer wanting to live, anxiety and outbursts of anger. Taking pills dulls these emotions, but that means that pleasant emotions such as happiness also fall victim to this.
During my younger years, I wasn’t really bullied, but I didn’t really fit in. Because I came from a family with a mixed culture, I was an odd one out among my classmates, who all had two Dutch parents. Small comments about how my house smelled because they weren’t used to the spices made me sad.
The real hell began during my secondary school years. The bullying became more personal, focusing on appearance, origin and intelligence. I got high grades, so I must have been sleeping with the teachers. I often heard that I should just die because they were disgusted by the sight of me. During this period, the seed of self-hatred was planted.
I thought there was little point in fighting back against my bullies. As a result, I took the conflict home with me and confronted my parents. They wouldn’t beat me up when I swore at them.
Eventually, things escalated at school. During PE, I was hit on the ankles with a hockey stick and verbally abused. I felt so humiliated that I was boiling inside. After the break, one of my bullies made a comment when I walked into the classroom and I exploded. I don’t remember much about the incident because I was blind with rage, but apparently I dragged the boy across the classroom and tried to throw him out of the window.
I came to my senses in the headmaster’s office, with him crying next to me.
I never received any punishment for this. Years later, I heard from my parents that when the headmaster called, my father said I should have been given a medal for my actions.
The following school years were quiet, because I was the maniac who wanted to throw bullies out of the window. Until I went to college.
I came across as a timid student; I didn’t want to be the centre of attention. But I caught the eye of a classmate who had impure thoughts and sexually abused me. The police advised me not to report it because it was my word against his. And the dean thought I shouldn’t ruin a young man’s life. But what about my life?
It became increasingly difficult to go to school; every time I saw him, I had to vomit. I left school without a diploma.
Self-hatred and trauma made me increasingly angry. I was angry at myself for allowing him to touch me, and I was angry at society for not protecting me. The arguments with my parents increased.
But now I was going to participate in society by working full-time. Surely adults would have left bullying behind them? This was a naive thought on my part.
I was 24 when I started working at a small accounting firm. Even though I didn’t finish my studies, I was good at my job. During my internship, I worked for one of the biggest accounting firms in the world. I wasn’t stupid, but I just couldn’t focus enough for my exams because the abuse kept popping up in my head.
At first, everyone at the office was nice. Until a new secretary was hired. She was sweet and pretty, and the male accountants were charmed by her. The administrative staff didn’t like that.
She had just come out of an abusive relationship and made no secret of the fact that she was seeing a psychologist to help her become more mentally resilient. I thought she was a hero, but the rest of my colleagues called her weak. And they used every little thing they could against her. And I, I kept quiet. Out of fear.
Then I noticed that she wasn’t the only one being bullied. A colleague with a speech impediment who joined the team later was also ridiculed behind his back. And I started to boil inside.
The day it all went wrong for me was when one of the senior employees assigned me a client who actually belonged to a part-timer. The part-timer didn’t agree with this and stood at my desk shouting at me. And something snapped inside me. I stood up, shouted that they were all terrible and went home. When I got home, I lay down on my bed and didn’t get up again. The office reported me sick.
But I had to go back to work eventually, and my GP prescribed antidepressants and referred me to a psychologist.
Behind my back, they claimed that I had verbally attacked them and that my colleagues felt intimidated. Part of my reintegration involved being banished to a workplace in the archive in the basement.
The last conversation I had with the company doctor was together with my employer. The company doctor said he wanted to see the conversations I had had with the psychologist because I was not getting any better. My employer indicated that he also wanted to read them, and then I thought these two are my enemies.
I sank into a deeper depression and couldn’t get out of bed. My contract was eventually terminated by mutual agreement, on the condition that I would not sue the company. My father had found enough ammunition to sue them, but I didn’t want anything more to do with them.
A former colleague had the nerve to send me an email saying that I was the instigator and that they were innocent. How hypocritical.
From that moment on, I started taking antidepressants. My parents both worked in psychiatry and fully trusted the necessity of the medication prescribed by the doctor. Surely the doctor couldn’t be wrong?
And I felt very little emotion during the period I was taking it. Sometimes my parents wondered where that cheerful girl had gone, and I would say, ‘Killed by medication.’
I went to four different psychologists and had drama therapy because when my depression returned, I escaped into addiction. Not substance addiction, but gaming addiction. I was successful at online gaming, no one disliked me, and I won every day. That was a better thrill than learning to live with the failure that I was in real life.
I couldn’t hold down a job and ended up in an addiction clinic where, at the time, they didn’t know how to deal with a gaming addict. I was treated alongside cocaine and alcohol addicts. And actually, I didn’t really belong there.
In 2013 my unemployment benefits ran out, and I was told to apply for social assistance. But I had moved back home, so I wasn’t eligible, and I didn’t want to burden my parents anymore.
The unemployment office held a meeting where I was introduced to potential employers in Belfast, Northern Ireland. I had nothing to lose, so I applied and, surprisingly, was hired as a call centre employee.
Within a month, I had to say goodbye to my friends and family and move abroad. In Belfast, I found the peace I needed and made new friends. I was able to continue taking my medication without any problems until my GP wanted to do a general health check to see if the antidepressants were still necessary.
I hadn’t had any depressive episodes for over a year, so together we drew up a plan to taper off the medication. I was also put in touch with support groups, as they were experts in that field in Belfast. That’s not surprising, as the Troubles were one of the most traumatic periods in the country’s history. We started in June 2015. Cutting back on the medication was scary, but we managed to keep the withdrawal symptoms on a minimal scale. I concidered myself lucky.
And now we are back to the moment when I burst into tears in front of Caravaggio’s painting. The emotions I hadn’t experienced in so long were back with full force. It also made me anxious because what if I experienced extreme anger again? What if I scare people again?
I shared my intense experience in the museum with the discussion group. First, I was congratulated on my breakthrough; I had reconnected with my inner self. Then I was asked to explain exactly what I felt at that moment.
The despair of the person on the far right of the painting, John the Apostle, felt tangible. I immediately understood what he must have felt when they took Jesus away.
I also had felt despair for a very long time, unable to cope with my traumas but also unable to cry over them. I bottled it all up deep inside me and pretended I was fine while holding on to the safety net given to me by the antidepressants. The upside was dulling down the emotions but the downside was massive weight gain and the inability to truly express myself. Which didn’t help my destroyed self image alot.
This reconnection with my emotions felt like I was liberated. Having emotions is not a burden, they are part of what makes you human. I had wasted so much time not living the life I should be living.
Everytime I shed a tear during an emotional scene of a movie, it felt like a win for me. I missed the warm glow I would feel inside when I started petting my neighbours’dog. You can say I became very sentimental after I quit my medication. I cherished the fun encounters I had with strangers, the banter I had with colleagues and friends. The sun has started shining in my head.
But with the good, the bad emotions came back to the surface. I was resentful towards my Dutch GP for never checking up on my general health and kept prescribing me the antidepressants, I was resentful towards my parents for blindly following his lead. And I needed to deal with this but unfortunately life or rather politics got in the way.
Brexit ended my stay in Belfast. I felt I didn’t belong there anymore as I wasn’t British and had no desire to become one. The climate turned very hostile towards immigrants. For the first time in my years of living there I was called a derogatory word because of my skin colour but they got the nationality wrong. My family is not from Pakistan.
Moving back home, trying to find a job had left me with no time to find a new support group. My mother had gotten seriously ill, receiving life-saving surgery and I had to step up and emotionally support my family. I ended up with the shittiest of call center jobs and started struggling with my mental health again. Then my father died.
Before moving to Belfast, our relationship had become very strained. At the airport he was crying, and I was very surprised at that. This was a man who had never cried before in my presence. I used to see him as tough as nails. It made me view him in a different light.
He often visited me and we got the chance to connect by talking a lot. He apologised for pushing me so hard during my college years. I had not informed my parents what had happened and just told them I didn’t feel like finishing college. My father never had to chance to study, his parents forced him to work as a house painter after secondary school, and it wasn’t until I was born that he studied to become a nurse. And he was really upset that I just threw my chances away. Being in Belfast, he saw that I had changed tremendously and he was truly happy for me.
And now my pillar of support had died. I never had to chance to tell him I was hurt because they followed the doctors’ lead without any doubt. Feelings of guilt started to emerge. But my mother was struggling and I had to step up and push these silly emotions to the background.
I kept doing this until I landed a job at my local municipality. Things were fine at first until Covid-19 hit the world. Verbal aggression started to reach insane levels. Not a day went by without a death threat and that starts gnawing at your at your core. I remember telling my supervisor: ‘Why do I need to create a thicker skin in order be able to live through a workday while our clients actually need to be taught how to be a decent human being?’
The breakdown came when a guy called us and said that he could see us sitting at the office. No way I was getting stabbed for this job. While a police report was made, and charges pressed I no longer felt safe. Not safe at work, not safe on the outdoors and certainly not safe at my own home.
My distrust in people had planted their roots fed by a lifetime of bullying and created space for a new emotion, paranoia. My old traumas resurfaced and it was time for EMDR. And that was a tough route to walk. It was also a tough period for my boyfriend. We had started our relationship on the day my father heard he had incurable cancer, and he met the rest of the family three weeks later at my dad’s funeral. I had told him everything about my mental health, more so that he couldn’t blame me for not knowing after we started dating.
I started to take it out on him, because he was close to me and more forgiving than a stranger would be. I’d fight him, hurl venomous words and break down in crying fits. It was not fun being my partner at the time but he stuck with me. The therapy sessions taught me that it was better to speak about what was bothering me instead of bottling it up and waiting for the vulcanic eruption. Communication like this was alien to me, I had never communicated about my inner emotions to a loved one. This was out of fear being judged. I was judging myself into the ground already, I didn’t need anyone else to look down on me. But he never looked down on me.
Fast forward to present day, I am currently recovering from my third burnout. I tend to burnout when shitty things happen at work. Mass layoffs and having to sign a NDA fed into my anxiety this time. My boyfriend has become my husband. There was no need for medication and my sessions with the psychologist are coming towards an end with me being trained to be more assertive and putting down boundries. Trying to do the work of three people next to your own, isn’t a very healthy thing to do. Convenient for the company but killing for me.
This time round I did not explode in the office, big win woop woop. Furthermore, I told my supervisior I am no longer going to pick up the slack from others, this is a job that he needs to manage. His reaction was pretty decent and we will see how it goes when I get back to full-time again.
I have the support of my husband and he assured me no job is worth it, if it makes you unhappy.
While I never want to hear or see anything from my bullies, I was happy to find out that the secretary ended up in a better place. She became a secretary of a councilor and is happily married with kids.
Now, I am working on my own happy ending, with the happy and healthy relationship already covered.
From my home office window, I saw my mother walking towards the rubbish truck with a box of Merci chocolates. She waved to the driver, and he left the cab to accept the chocolates and thank her.
It was time for a cup of tea, so I asked her why she had done that.
‘Was it his birthday?’ My mother replies, ‘No, just because they work so hard in all kinds of weather. And they make sure our streets and city stay nice and clean. I’m so happy with them.’
The good people of the Afvalstoffendienst in ‘s-Hertogenbosch.
And they do indeed do a good job. Just look at the annual festival, Carnival. Five days of fun for the residents, but tonnes of waste that is cleaned up by a team of 15 men and women, getting the city ready to welcome tourists again. The sickly smell of beer still lingers, but there is not a plastic cup or beer can to be seen.
Record weight of 75 tonnes of waste cleared in 2024.
And this is why my mother often puts the waste collection workers in the spotlight. She brings cakes or sweets when she takes her surplus waste paper to the recycling centre. In hot weather, she brings trays of bottled water and ice creams. It’s not that they don’t get refreshments from their employer, but she wants to do something extra for them.
The nice thing is that everyone knows her at that location, so they help her unload the car or stop for a chat with her. When I go, I don’t get any special treatment. That’s okay, because my mother is very sociable. My father always said, ‘Your mother would talk to a lamppost.’
During my work at the municipality, I had close contact with the waste collection service. You get to know the employees better and you also find out if a resident is rude, because then their waste won’t be collected for a month. A so-called penalty.
I had no idea that these employees were subjected to so much aggression. Often the reason is that a container has not been emptied, but if access to the containers is blocked, this can happen. Cars block the passage for the truck and then just drive on. It is also crazy work to find out who owns the blocking car.
Working conditions are not always safe either. Last year, the depot was closed for a whole month because an employee had been caught by a claw. The labour inspectorate intervened and waste was no longer collected until the problems were resolved.
But the employees have a good collective labour agreement and an end-of-year bonus. When there is a heatwave, they are given a tropical work schedule.
In fact, they are the employees with the most power in the municipality. Because if they go on strike, the rats will soon be dancing in the streets. And that is a party that no one wants to experience.
Sign says: Walking route (1.5 metres wide) Dogs on leash. General local regulation
I have a part-time dog. It sounds strange but I will explain.
The dog in question is called Doris and she is a Bulgarian street dog. My husband is the owner but there are days when I look after her, like today. Yesterday, maintenance was carried out on his home’s ventilation system and Doris gets a lot of stress from strangers.
Currently, we are still living separately because the housing market is fucked up and his appartment is actually suitable for only one person. I have been living with my mother since my return from abroad and unfortunately the waiting list for a house is more than 10 years. In some places it’s even 30 years, really crazy.
At weekends, he and Doris stay with us and my mother looks after her when we go to the office on Mondays. Normally I bring them home on Monday evening but since we knew there was going to be work on Tuesday, Doris stayed here for a few more nights.
I like having Doris with me because I get much more exercise while walking with her. The area around my house is much more dog-friendly than where my husband lives downtown.
And now we come to the topic, dog tax. Where I live there are a lot of dog owners and therefore quite a lot of facilities for the dog. Special dog exercise areas, dog walking routes and a special dog poo cleaning service. In the city centre, these facilities are more scarce, you have to bring dog waste bags or the BOA (special investigating officer) will fine you. I only saw these guys once in my neighbourhood and then I got a comment that I always need to bring bags because my dog could defecate at those 10 metres to the dog walking route and then I would have violated the APV (General Local Regulation). Real powerplay from these guys.
These facilities are paid from the dog tax and the rates are not low. My municipality has a dog discouragement policy where the dog tax gets higher and higher with the number of dogs you own. For 2025, my husband had to pay EUR 106.44 for Doris (in 2024 it was EUR 102.12). A few years ago, my husband had a second dog, Jackie. If you have two dogs then you have to pay EUR 159.96 on the second dog so that works out to EUR 106.44 + EUR 159.96 = EUR 266.40 for owning two dogs. Each additional dog after that will cost you EUR 214.20 per dog. So if you have 4 dogs then you pay EUR 694.80 in dog tax. What a lot of money.
But of course the owner pays with love for his faithful four-legged friend. Well, while working at the municipality, I did find out many times that people kept a dog illegally and they got fat fines when the inspectors came by. Yes indeed, there is such a thing as a dog tax inspector and they always come unexpectedly. And sometimes the dog will betray his or her presence by barking when the doorbell rings. And if the dog is not registered with the municipality, you will be fined. They can let you off with a warning but you need to register the dog on the day you met the dog tax inspector.
And what is then very annoying is that the municipality next to your home municipality does not charge a dog tax. I have had conversations with people who find the tax unfair as a result but all the councillor then says is that you can also move.
Despite the tax, it doesn’t stop people from having one or more dogs. And that fills the council’s pockets, so much so that they have money left over with which to pay for other things like maintenance to parks or theatres. The dog has become the new cash cow.
But when I watch as I walk the dog and in the process see how beautifully the surroundings are maintained, it eases the pain that my fluffy friend is participating in the time-honoured certainty in life of paying taxes. Of course Doris does not pay a penny, that bill is for the owner.
On the dog walk route along the Meuse we see the river freighters pass by
I must confess, I have a lot of hats and helmets for my Blythe. More than Blythes that could display them all. *sweatdrop* For me cute and funny headgear for Blythes is what makes the hobby fun, eventhough collecting them costed me an arm and a leg. But which hobby is without cost?
This blogpost is dedicated to all the hats/helmets that I currently own. The three models assisting me today are Spooky (a Pinkle Winkle customized by Fiona), Bridget (an Icy custom by RisRas) and Margarite (a stock Flowergirl of Happiness).
I found out that I cannot trace back whom I’ve bought some of these hats/helmets from in the past. If you recognise any, please let me know and I will amend the page. Some of these were prizes and others just purchased. 🙂
Can’t remember when I exactly joined the hobby but it’s been after my visit to Japan in 2006 so next year will be my 20th anniversary since I started collecting ball-jointed dolls, Blythes and several other dolls. Too many some may think haha.
I first saw the Unoa dolls from a friend in the hobby, and they struck me as a more delicate and mature MSD (43-45 cm) size dolls then the Volks standard out there. Less child-like and I liked them. But obtaining an Unoa was a bit difficult at the time, I hopped on a split-order and managed to get a Sist faceplate. My friend had casted the backplates so I was able to hybrid my own Lusis with a Angel of Dream body that was a decent colour match. And Veerle was born.
Unoa Sist hybrid
I am still proud of the face up I did waaay back, but haven’t really tried doing more faceups afterwards *sweatdrop*.
But I still have three Unoa dolls on my wishlist for years and recently was looking in the second hand market. Lo and behold the original creators are still in the doll business but you will need either a friend in Japan to buy it for you or use a proxy service which makes things a bit easier. I hope *sweatdrop*.
So the dolls that I am looking for are Unoa Chibi Roron and Lilin with Roron the first to aquire and a Unoa Sister Ange. Can’t leave a sexy lady out of the team now can I.
Unoa Chibi Roron
Unoa Chibi Lilin
Unoa Sister Ange
The chibis are just plain adorable and I have a lot of fun and colourful ideas for them. Brightly coloured wigs, flashy and cheery clothing, sneakers. You name it. Both will have small busts.
The Ange sculpt will require a bit more planning as I do not have really any clothing that will fit her. I think they are even slimmer than a Fairyland Minifee. But this project will also be fun.
Unoa dolls can be purchased via their official website here.
If the potato was never introduced in Europe we wouldn’t have this discussion but this golden miracle that grows in the soil has lead to major strife between the Dutch. And it all boils down to what word is favoured for the fried version of this vegetable. Is it friet or patat? (English: chips or American french fries)
My husband hails from Overrijsel which is above the rivers as we from North-Brabant would say. Above the rivers is defined by everything above the river Meuse that cuts right through out petit country of the Netherlands (Holland for some parts of the world which would only cover the two provinces North and South Holland but that is a whole different discussion lol). This particular divide in our household has lead to many inoffensive quips about my soft spoken G while he really rolls his G around during conversation. But we will never settle over the friet/patat divide when it comes to what the best name in Dutch is for french fries.
This has always been a slightly controversial toppic, with a lot of banter and poking fun of the people who live above or below the river. Let me share with you a demographic on how the divide is seen.
The green area is team patat and the yellow/orange area is team friet. Yes, it also includes Belgium and they used to be a part of us and are dubbed the brother from another mother by people who live in the South. Looking at land mass, team patat outdoes team friet. But according to the TeamFriet website french fries were invented in France during the French revolution and slowly made its way up towards the Netherlands and the first portion of friet (American: french fries) was sold 150 years ago on a fun fair in Breda. And that lies below the river! The word patat (American: french fries) did not exist yet. And this is historical proof that it has always been Team Friet!
But I do love the banter people have with this word rivalry. During carnaval, festivities that are always held before the lent period our municipality of Oeteldonk (‘s-Hertogenbosch the rest of the year) had put up signs for the suburbanites that came to visit.
The sign says: Attention suburbanites! The following will be found here in Oeteldonk: Beer at € 3,50 Friet at € 5,00 Patat at € 50,00 The flu for five days
Team Friet patches to show your united spirit for the Dutch delicacy.
Lays caters for both sides: with their flavours: patatje mayo (American: french fries with mayonaise) and frietje satésaus (American: french fries with peanut sauce).
Fuck Friet (American: french fries). It is patat! (American: french fries).
I did notice that team friet has more merchandise than team patat. I guess we are more petty about it. 😉
I do feel bad for my husband because everytime he orders a patat oorlog (American: french fries warzone which has mayo, peanut sauce and raw onions as toppings) at our local fry shop they always say: “Pardon? (As in I didn’t hear you the first time) and you almost hear him rolling his eyes and then gives up and asks for a friet oorlog. And it does not only happens at our local spot, but almost every fry shop in the south of the country. Give the poor man a break. Funny thing is while he has been living longer in the south than where he was born, the word patat is so ingrained in his vocabulary.
I hope you enjoyed a little insight in the quirkiness of the Netherlands. How a french fry was able to split a country in two.
We are not talking about real sheep but about the cute little sheeplike dolls created by QLYwork. They really give you a retro feel, with their painted eyes and cute features.
These girls are ready to get dressed. 😀
I spoiled myself a bit when I found out that QLY made new outfits for 2025. They had previously been wearing the travel outfits and while these were extremly posh clothing the headdress would not stay on because the girls have smooth scalps lol. Besides they were both fully black and white outfits and my girls deserve a bit of colour.
I made my pick of the three below. 🙂
Apple Candy Dress set, Little Red Riding Hood of Apple and a Sailor outfit.
Getting them dressed was way easier than with the travel outfits. Elastic headbands versus ribbons to tie them down, my preference goes to the elastic.
Once again amazed by the quality of these outfits. I can’t do it for such a small scale. These sheep are only 11,5 cm in height.
Aren’t they cute?Look at the wee stem on the apple headband!
But I bought two more items, a print for my wall and a bear pin cushion. The pin cushion is my all time favourite now and I know some people will be very jealous of such a cute item on my sewing desk.
Well protected in transport with cute bear apple art on the box. This pin cushion is the bomb!Just perfect for my dressmaker’s pins.Now to find a perfect frame for this one. Maybe a coloured one would be nice?
I love it when the sellers add an extra gift with your purchase, I got the 2025 New Year gift containing some stickers and a 2025 calendar.
I feared that some items were lost when I received the prcel from the postal service. It had two gaping holes and felt so light. But because it was all wrapped in bubble wrap together and the print was on the bottom nothing was lost thankfully.
I used to work for the postal services and I had parcel tape in my truck to fix holes in parcels. They must have changed the policy since I left as this parcel was an absolute mess.
All and all, I always love to shop with QLYworks and hope to see more outfits and maybe another sheep girl in the future.
I saw an add for the Doorzo app via Instagram and while I had ordered in the past via proxy services, this one looked easy to use. And easy to use it was and dangerous for my wallet. 😀
Doorzo is a proxy service that helps you shop on sites like Mercari, Rakuma, Surugaya and my newly discovered Minne.com (Japanese handmade goods). You browse via keywords and see if you can find your most wanted items. I did cry a little seeing the sold out Baby, The Stars Shine Bright collab outfits for Volks dolls going twice and triple the price. *shakes angry fist at scalpers* After payment the goods will be shipped after the sellers confirmed that you won the purchase and ship it to a central warehouse, I found out it is in Saitama prefecture. After your items arrive, for a small fee you can have them checked and repacked for international shipment. It all went pretty fast and the longest time I had to wait was for the Dutch customs to release the package after I paid the ransom. Everything done by Doorzo was done swiftly and with great care.
I bought 2 kimono’s form I Doll House and when they arrived I was pleasantly surprised. The fabric quality has the most beautiful and deep colours. The gold looks like the work of a skillful painter.
Both kimono’s are Blythe, Licca-chan and obitsu 22 sized.
Up close inspection you see that the kimono’s have been hemmed with care by their creator.
Workwomanship 10/10Pretty colours
And I feel the price was too low for them. The red/blue kimono costed me ¥ 2.500 (€ 15,36). It came with an obi, zori sandals and a hair ornament. I think this one is the prettiest of the two, the red, blue and gold go so well together.
It suits Licca-chan so well. <3
The other kimono is fitted on my Blythe, Rhiann. She has auburn hair and this set really fits the autumn mood. Too bad it’s winter, all the leaves are gone and a photoshoot at the park will look pretty bleak. The details on the obi are really pretty and I love the handstitched flower on it. This set costed me ¥ 2.300 (€14,13).
Acer palmatumThis colourscheme gives me the autumn vibesPoor lass is still shoeless. 🙁
The overall experience of using Doorzo and the items that I have received has been fantastic. I have listed this seller in my favourites and I will undoubtedly buy more form her in the future. I have already made a few purchases on Doorzo during the weekend and whoosh €75 gone. 😀
Another package with a set of clothing arrived via PostNL later on the day but it’s 1 AM now, I need to work tomorrow so I should leave the photo editing and posting of the blog for tomorrow or Friday. For now I will wait for my other Doorzo packages, two of them coming my way soon.
In 2024 I decided I didn’t want to fully earn my living from working in corporate. It had been a stressful year, several colleagues ended up leaving the workplace along with quite a few redundancies. Do I have faith in the future with my current work? I wish I could but appeasing the shareholders and having a stable work environment do not mix. This is the way in capitalism and I don’t feel I can grow old in such a world.
My hobbies give me energy and motivation to become a skilled person. While it is a niche market, the doll collecting world, I think I will be able to generate some income out of it. Often you hear that you shouldn’t try to make a living of your hobbies but on the other hand working myself into oblivion for bosses that don’t care is not a future that I want for myself. I care alot about my work, but being underminded and facing understaffing is the fight I need to give up on. For my own sanity.
Can’t remember how long ago I started collecting dolls, maybe at the beginning of the millenium but I have made quite a few friends nationally and internationally. Taking photos, exchanging ideas and even trading or buying stuff from each other. While I have been in the hobby for a long time, I am pretty much absent from the online communities like the ones on Facebook or forums. I enjoy looking at the photos that people share but I shy away from commenting. So In 2025 I want to be more active in showing my love and support to other doll fans, creators and enthousiasts.
Another plan for 2025 is launching my online shop. I have already registered myself on bigcartel, created a designated e-mail address and have been reading up on all the legal stuff that I need to know to open up my shop. Will keep the name underwraps until everthing is ready to launch.
On the todo list: – to register at the Chamber of Commerce (I feel like a Ferengi 😉 ) – get my VAT-number – open a business bankaccount – create a logo – create business cards – find sustainable packaging solutions – set op business shipping accounts with various logistical services – figure out the pricing – all the legal requirements that the EU has set up for product safety.
It is a massive list before launch and it takes a while to get through it. I work 40 hours a week and on the weekends I am working on my shop stock. I might do a soft launch via Instagram, offering a few of the items to test the waters but I am not a big van of Paypal with its fickle tendencies.
And the 2026 goal is to have a booth at a local doll and bear fair in my hometown. The organiser of the event passed away and it was not certain this fair would be continued but they launched the 2025 campaign so I am hopeful for next year. A couple of years ago they only had 1 stand with Blythe and now they dedicated two whole rows with Asian ball jointed dolls, Blythes and Smart Dolls. I can’t wait until March to find out how big the floor has grown and see my friends again.
I feel good about these plans, I get the support I needed from my family and friends. Even some don’t really get my hobby, they still think I should pursue my dreams.
